If you don’t have anything nice to say….

Is it possible to be too honest, or is honesty always the best policy?

Image Don’t say anything at all.  It’s what our mothers have been telling us for ages.  In the current social arena, anything that could, even remotely, offend someone is monitored and prettied up until it’s but a shell of its original intent. In my humble opinion, it is not nice, or mean, it is not politically correctness, or ambivalence toward people’s feelings, lifestyles, beliefs, choices, etc. that is the issue.  The issue is honesty.


The kind of honesty that starts in your gut, that points nowhere but in.  Before you ever open your mouth toward someone else, you need to be sure that whatever it is you think you think, or you think you feel, or you think you believe it…that it is coming from an honest place inside.  Very often times we fill our lives with lies and expectations from outside influences. From convincing ourselves that, we want the house, the wife, the 2-car garage with soccer balls, white fences and the cute doghouse on the 1.2-acre lawn.  Or maybe it’s climbing the corporate ladder to have the $6500 a month penthouse loft because that is what you imagined when you were told to go to school, get good grades, get a good job, become a CEO or lawyer.  However, maybe, if you were put in a place, where no one would judge you, where you could do what you wanted, it would be something to the exact opposite that would bring you the joy, the peace, the utter satisfaction that everyone should enjoy. Being honest with yourself isn’t just about what you do for a living.  Every day choices you make are either going to be fair, true, accurate and honest, or not.  Being truthful to yourself, accepting responsibility for one’s own actions and utilizing the moments of failure to go forward are some of THE hardest things in life to do. I think the phrase should be.  If you don’t have anything honest to say, don’t say anything at all. Well, I think I have rambled on enough.  To answer the original question…I don’t think you can be too honest, I think you can be falsely honest.